Mondays tend to be those dreaded days where our "freedom" comes to a close and we put on our brave face to tackle the workweek ahead.
What limiting belief or preconceived notion is causing you to have anxiety? Is your do to list overwhelming? Are you afraid to fail?
I used to repeat those lies I told myself until they became my reality. My negative self talk was perpetual and I allowed the fabrications to permeate my safe zone. I never fully achieved my "flow", and remained stuck in a crippling state of fear, self sabotage and lack of motivation.
So how did I overcome it?
I didn't fully. But I'm working at it daily by cultivating a healthy, aware and present mindset. And from this new way of being, I've come up with advice to successfully counter those dreaded lows we impose on ourselves.
By understanding these statements to be true, we can expand and retrain our brains to develop a growth mindset.
Most stress is simply a perception.
We manifest our beliefs.
No dreams are too big.
Multitasking is a lie.
The only time that exists is now.
Statement: Most Stress is Simply a Perception
While it's true that stress can be legitimate based on a real threat, most stress that we impose on ourselves is derived from our perception of A particular situation or circumstance. We choose, consciously and unconsciously, to create outcomes for situations that arise that are based on previous experiences, what we've been raised to believe, or how we are taught to feel and think.
What is liberating and can help you gain insight to why you stress, is that our reactions are completely and solely in our control and we have the power to change how we react at every any given time. External factors aside, it's how we focus our intent and reframe the situations that can reduce and sometimes eliminate stress entirely.
"Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.' --Marie Curie
It takes time to understand the root of our fears, but if we embrace them as they arise and focus on changing our belief about that fear, it is easier to overcome it. Simply living with anxiety or in a constant state of fear without acknowledging its origin or purpose will limit you ability to break free of it.
Try being more in tune with your thoughts during stressful situations by being present in the feeling, asking yourself what purpose the fear holds and what it would do for your life if you released it!
Statement: We manifest our BELIEFS!
You may often hear the phrase "you manifest your dreams", but in reality it's our beliefs that when practiced religiously, and trusted in them wholeheartedly, lead us to executing those actions towards our dreams.
an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists."his belief in the value of hard work."
trust, faith, or confidence in someone or something."a belief in democratic politics"
What do you hold to be true to you that resonates to your core and is unwavering? Do you live by example through this belief or fail to practice what you preach?
By not only determining what our beliefs are but by shifting them to align with our goals can support our journey to achieve them!
Do you think that you are incapable of success based on a previous experience or something that was entrenched in your psyche at an early age? Change your mindset, change your beliefs and watch the magic unfold.
Statement: No dreams are too big.
A wise man once told me, "what dreams do you have that you want anyone to stop you from achieving?" It was in that precise moment where I realized that while my dreams seemed grandiose, they were NOT too big and that no one - not a partner, peers, limiting beliefs or even myself - could or would stop me from going for them.
Having dreams or foresight gives us purpose that is fuelled by passion and creates drive. Grit, true grit, is usually forged by a combination of VISION & PASSION (or VP as my mother once stated) - and with those two pieces of the puzzle aligned, nothing can stop you.
"But, I don't have the money to..."
"I would, but I'm too busy..."
"Maybe one day..."
Stop. Listen to those statements. All of them are, again, limiting beliefs you've imposed on yourself.
You may not have financial means TODAY - but there are ways to work hard or leverage networks to come upon them with planning and follow through.
You may THINK you are too busy, but busy does not equal productive. Are your priorities skewed? Do you find yourself placing tasks that will not result in your success first in line?
One day could essentially mean forever. The only time that exists is RIGHT NOW. Why can't right now be the time to take the plunge, to stop procrastinating, to make time for your future?
Statement: Multitasking is a LIE.
Do you think that Bill Gates, a man who held the title of richest man for 15 consecutive years, knew that he his ONE idea, when focused on diligently would lead him to the success that followed? The point of the matter is that he peeled back all of the layers of his projects and instead focused on the ONE thing until each task was completed to its full extent and execution.
This concept isn't new, but it's rarely implemented. As explored in the book (or audiobook), The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller, we are often made to believe that multitasking is an art to be perfected and that we are better off doing many things simultaneously to achieve greater results. The truth of the matter is, you are far better to concentrate on one goal, one task, one thought until fully realized and mastered to garnish the success and fulfillment sought.
Reframing your mindset and concentrating on that ONE thing that will drive immediate results for any aspect in your life can lead you to get rid of "to do lists" filled with unimportant, seemingly pressing clutter that burden your mind and hinder your progress. Start with one, get it done, and make a priority list for the next ONE to focus on intently.
Statement: The only time that exists is NOW.
This concept may seem foreign or esoteric for some, but hear me out and be open minded.